I have watched the video for activating but I never get a screen asking to activate after connecting to my phone. Anyone else have this issue?

Yep.  Doesn't work.  I've tried everything including an hour chat with DJI support.  Nada.

You do have to update DJI fly, and the update isn't available in the Play Store so you need to use the link that's in the instructions.  This didn't help me, though it did some other peple.

I figured out my issue. The goggles weren't linked to the drone and controller

I finally got it to work, but it was not simple.

I had to download the FPV version of DJI Assistant 2 from here: https://www.dji.com/downloads/softwares/dji-assistant-2-dji-fpv-series

The goggles still wouldn't connect to it, but I was able to connect both the remote controller and drone and update the firmware on each of them.

Once I did that, I got a different screen in the goggles saying that they had a bad firmware version.  Then, when I connected them to the computer running Assistant it was able to update the goggle firmware.

Then, when I connected them to my phone with DJI Fly 1.3.0 (which you need to load manually on your phone from here, the one in the Play Store doesn't work: https://www.dji.com/downloads/djiapp/dji-fly) it finally popped up the activation screen and I was able to activate the drone.

I still haven't been able to fly it, because it's night.  And it's supposed to rain for several days, so it might be a while.  But at least I'm over this hurdle.